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We've all got problems but we don't all have someone who is willing to listen to us. I'd like to introduce you to your new best friend Dr. Krikit from Faber Drive. Check out this Rock N Roll Therapy as he provides advice to Buzznet members going through rough spots in their life -- free of charge!



Thetherapist: We started dating and automatically rumors started flying, because he seems to pick girls who, as ex girlfriends, like getting revenge. One girl starts trying to get him arrested as a sex offender --- the day after his 18th birthday. This is putting a lot of stress on us, especially since our one month was ON that same birthday. His brother Rudi came to town and from that point on Sean [my boyfriend] just wasn't the same. He got smashed or blazed every night, he started hanging out with his ex's and stopped so much as talking to me on the phone. Rudi has majorissues with his fiancé being OCD into his business and always needing to talk to him, which makes Rudi very depressed and causes him to drink...A LOT. Sean used to talk to me all the time so I'm goin to guess that he was terrified that he and I would end up that way. So I am in the process of trying to fix our relationship because of the strain being put on it by these girls and Sean's bad habits, and he IM's me saying that he's fallen out of love with me, we're over. I didn't believe him completely, so he came over, and said it again. But there was something in the way that he looked at me, or rather WOULDN'T look at me, that makes me feel like he didn't mean it...So now I'm not sure if I should hope that he'll come to his senses, or if I should just try to move on.

Dr. Krikit: Well, you know when I was a few years younger, I probably would have told you its worth it to hold on and keep trying and so on, but through my experiences in the past few years touring all over North America and meeting people every day I've learned that there are A LOT of people in this world, so there's got to be someone for everyone. If you're not happy and he's not happy and you guys are having all these constant problems, it probably wasn't meant to be.  I would move on, be single for a while, and find someone who truly makes you happy and who you can make happy as well.  It WILL happen, just be patient and hold on!




Pompasaurus: If a relationship is doomed to failure based on logistics (the people are moving away from each other and do not want a long-term relationship) is it better to cut your losses and break up immediately, or to wait until the last moment?

Dr Krikit: That depends really on the people in the relationship, and I think that its really something they have to discuss between each other.  I was in a similar situation where I was dating a girl from Austalia who was living in Canada for a few months, and we decided that it was good to keep dating til she left, as long as both of us knew from the beginning that that's where it would end.  If the people in the relationship think they're strong enough to be that close and then end it just like that when they separate, then I think its better to wait til the last minute.  Most importantly though they have to sit down and talk about it, because as long as they're on the same page, it will work out for the best in the end no matter what they decide.


Mafiaprincess: Okay so, I have a boyfriend, and he's a really amazing guy, I mean he brightens up my day. Wednesday will be our one month and I'm so happy. Well, I wanna know am I in l-o-v-e??? Cuz, people say I am, but I'm not even sure of what it is, everytime I think of him, I get butterflies in my stomach and I smile a lot, when he kisses me my knees actually get weak and my whole mind empties. I can feel myself blush just when he looks over at me and smiles, I can never get him off of my mind, i even dream of him! I just....I just don't know what to do, I have a feeling he loves me...but I don't know. I'm soo young, I'm only 16, and its only been almost a month? Can it really happen this fast??? plz help me....

Dr. Krikit: Well love is really a difficult word to define, and I think it means something different to everyone who experiences it.  After a month in a relationship, you will definitely be at the point where you feel like you love this guy.  I'm not gonna say you do or you don't, but if you don't love him yet, you are definitely falling in love with him.   It sounds like he's falling in love with you too!  Chemistry between different people happens at different speeds and I think that it can happen very quickly.  I would say cuz you are still young, don't rush it too much, but who am I to talk cuz I've said 'I love you' to a girl after 2 weeks before.  You're young, so just enjoy life and have a good time, and if you're enjoying this thing you guys have going on then maybe you've found your first love!



Pearlcharms: I love rock music but I dont't love going to shows anymore, I'm overweight and I feel like the small skinny girls are always lookin at me like I don't belong, it's such an uncomfortable feeling cause were all there for the same reason, who cares how much I weigh? It would not bother me so much, but when I meet the band they only seem to want to talk to the pretty girls, I'm not a groupie and I dont want to have sex with them, just talk.

Dr. Krikit: Wow that's a toughie...well the rock and roll attitude kind of is like "f*** you I'm gonna do what I want to and I don't care what you think of me."  That being said, you should go to the shows anyways and see the bands you like and have a good time, and not worry about what those skinny bitches think.  As far as the bands go, most bands who care about their fans should want to talk to you.  You're a fan just like everyone else.  Just be careful around the end of the night though cuz yah, you aren't a groupie, but if these guys are the type of band that are into doing groupies, they're probably talking to the skinny chicks so they can find a groupie to take home with them.  I know its easier said than done, but try to ignore the people judging you cuz you're a little bigger while you're still young.  This will help you be comfortable in your own skin for the years to come because many people will judge you at many different points in your life.  And remember, not all guys think skinny is hot!
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